What Every Man Should Avoid on the First Date
September 23, 2009 by KimLance · Leave a Comment
By Kim Lance, Associate Publisher of Online Dating Magazine
First dates can be scary for both men and women, particularly when it comes to making that good first impression. While your first date will most likely go off without a hitch, there are some things every man should avoid when taking a woman out for a first date.
Don’t Ever Show Up Late
Being punctual for a first date is an absolute must. Showing up to your date late will give your date the wrong impression. She may get the impression that you are always tardy, that you don’t care enough about her to show up on time, or, until you arrive, she may think she has been stood up. In any case, it is bound to put her in a bad mood and may give a sour note to the beginning of your date. If you have to show up late because of forces beyond your control, make sure you call your date to let her know or, if one of you does not have a cell phone, call the restaurant or meeting place so that they can let her know.
Don’t Show Up Disheveled and Dirty
It is important to give yourself enough time before the date to freshen up and look your best. If you show up to a first date looking shaggy, unkept, and smelling funky, your date will get the wrong impression about you. Your date may think you look this way all the time and immediately be turned off. Give yourself plenty of time to shower, shave, and iron your clothes. That extra half an hour could be the time you needed to give yourself the attractive edge your date has been looking for, and remember, not having the time to get cleaned up for a date could be detrimental to its outcome. A well groomed nicely dressed man will win out over a stinky slob every time.
Don’t Check Out Other Women In Front of Her
When you go on a date with a woman, you have committed yourself to her for the period of the date. Because of this, it is absolutely out of line to be checking out other women while you are on a date. This is rude and unacceptable. Constantly being distracted by other woman walking by will most likely make your date insecure and definitely doesn’t give her the impression that you are interested in her. If you are constantly looking over her shoulder at the hot blonde at the next table, one of two things are practically guaranteed to happen: 1) Your date will feel very bad about herself, thinking she is unattractive or unwanted, or 2) Your date will get extremely angry and annoyed with you, making for a bad drive home and a diminished chance of a second date.
Don’t Dominate the Conversation
When on a first date, you may feel the need to impress your girl with stories and interesting tidbits about you. That’s great, but don’t go overboard. Remember a conversation is between two people, not one person talking at another. It’s a great idea to share some intriguing stories and thoughts with your date, but make sure you are giving her enough time to equally participate in the conversation. Ask her questions about herself, this will show her that you are interested about her as a person and will give you the opportunity to learn more about her.
Don’t Whine and Complain
Yes, we have all had our bad days, but a date (especially a first date) is not the place to air all of your grievances. Chances are, your date is expecting to have a good, fun time when she meets up with you. If she is greeted with a “Gosh traffic was such a pain…I hate this town” she will immediately be turned off. Complaining sets the tone for a stressful, unhappy date. Even if you have had a taxing day, don’t spend the night whining about it. Just be happy to be spending time with the woman you are interested in. Smiles are contagious but so are frowns. Whether you know it or not, your bad mood could affect your date and how she feels about you. You want your date to remember you as funny and upbeat, not a downer.
Don’t Be Too Physically Aggressive
It is very important to read into signals your date gives you before going in for a kiss (or more). Don’t automatically think that just because you have had a good date that your date is ready take your physical relationship to the next level. If you are interested in kissing your date, start off with hand holding, a hug, and slowly build up to a kiss. Always respect your date’s wishes. If she says no to any physical advancement, take her response at face value and back off. A man who is too aggressive when it comes to intimacy can turn a woman off and could actually make the woman afraid or anxious.
Don’t Tell Her You’ll Call Her If You Don’t Intend To
Telling a woman “I’ll call you” when you don’t intend to do so is a bad idea. If the woman was interested in a second date with you, her disappointment will only be magnified if she waits around for your call only to learn that you never had any intention of calling for a second date. If you don’t want to call her, just end the date by saying “It was nice meeting you” or a simple “Good bye, have a nice rest of the evening”. This way you are not leading her on or getting her expectations up. On a reverse note, if you do want to arrange a second date, make sure you let her know.
Planning for first dates can be nerve-wracking, but following some simple guidelines while on the date will help to ensure the best date possible. If you are friendly, on time, respectful, and attentive, chances are you and your date will have a great time and, if the attraction is mutual, your first date could be the start of a beautiful relationship.
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Kim Lance is the Associate Publisher of Online Dating Magazine, an Internet publication covering online dating through news, reviews, experiences, interviews, and articles.
This article is copyright and may not be republished. Used with permission.
Impress Your Date – Dress for Success
September 22, 2009 by KimLance · Leave a Comment
By Kim Lance, Associate Publisher of Online Dating Magazine
You never get a second chance to make a good first impression. It’s true that most people make instant, often subconscious, judgments about someone’s personality based on the first few seconds of their first meeting. Because of this fact, it is vitally important to look and dress your best when meeting for a first date. Appropriate attire, good grooming, and fashionable style can really impress someone on a first date, and may be the make-or-break factor regarding how they would feel about a second date. Here are some tips to help you look your best when trying to impress.
Learn to Look Your Best
If you do not have an inert sense of style, you may need to do a little bit of research in order to find out what looks best fit your body type, complexion, and personality. A good way to find out what colors look best on you is to have a color analysis done. Visit a reputable spa or salon that can perform a color analysis on you and find out which colors work best with our completion. Based on the analysis, go out and buy some outfits that work within your compatible color scheme.
Another way to find out what outfits, make-up, and fashion choices look best on you is to keep track of what your friends, family, and co-workers are saying about you. If your best friend keeps commenting about how good you look when you wear a particular color, make note of that and wear that color on your date. If co-workers rave about your new haircut or outfit, it’s a good sign that that haircut or outfit is flattering on you and would be a good choice for a first date.
You can also take a friend that you consider to be stylish out shopping with you for your date outfit. It may also be a good idea to read through some fashion magazines to keep up-to-date on trends and purchase dating clothes based on recommendations. Make sure you wear your new outfit out in public before you go on the date to see what sort of reaction you get from your peers. Don’t experiment with something brand new on your first date.
Be Subtle – Less is More
Don’t go overboard when getting ready for your date. We all want to look our best, but nerves may cause you to go a bit too far with your make-up, clothes, or fragrance. Remember, subtle make-up that emphasizes your best facial features can make a better impression than trying to hide your flaws with heavy make up and bright lipstick or blush.
It is also important to go easy on the clothing accessories and jewelry. Nice earrings, a handsome watch, or tasteful necklace can help emphasize a person’s beauty and style, but heavy gold chains, rings on every finger, and gaudy bracelets can actually distract a date from recognizing your natural beauty.
When wearing cologne or perfume, don’t drench yourself in your fragrance! In order to avoid being overbearing with your fragrance, spray the cologne or perfume in front of you before dressing and then walk into the spray. This will give a subtle hint of fragrance without an overpowering aroma.
Dating Fashion Dos and Don’ts to Always Remember
Here are a few fashion tips you should always abide by when going on a date:
1. Have clean, nicely manicured hands, well-groomed facial hair, and a clean haircut.
2. Wear clothes that fit and flatter you, avoid anything too baggy (it could make you look fat or frumpy) and stay away from anything too tight or restricting.
3. Dress appropriately for the occasion, stay away from tank tops and sandals (even if it is your usual style) if you and your date are attending a dinner party
And here are some things you should avoid when dressing to impress on a first date:
1. Don’t wear brand new shoes or an outfit you are not comfortable in as new shoes have the potential to really hurt your feet if they are not broken in properly and, if you are continually adjusting your tie or collar because you are not comfortable in a suit, you will turn off your date.
2. Avoid heavy make-up and outrageous outfits, they take away from who you really are and your natural beauty.
3. Don’t try to be too trendy; you may not be able to pull it off. If you want to experiment with your look, do it before the date and get feedback as to whether or not the look works for you.
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Kim Lance is the Associate Publisher of Online Dating Magazine, an Internet publication covering online dating through news, reviews, experiences, interviews, and articles.
This article is copyright and may not be republished. Used with permission.
Online Dating Tips For Women – A Must Read
September 20, 2009 by admin · Leave a Comment
Online dating is a great way to find a potential partner these days, especially for women. Online dating helps to filter out nasty, offensive guys or those who would normally go out of their way to take advantage of women. The great thing about online dating in this respect is that it allows a woman to have that ability to choose whom she will meet. A note here, it is very important to take the utmost care when creating both your profile and your photo so that you don’t give the wrong impression to prospective dates.
So here are some online dating tips for women. A knowledge of what should be avoided may determine the success of meeting the partner of your dreams.
Firstly, to avoid any misconceptions, ensure that your profile includes a recent picture, try to avoid posting a picture that is five to ten years old as your appearance may have changed considerably in that period of time. It really does pay to be honest about your appearance from the start, as this can avoid disappointment on your first date, and also this will haelp to understand the real intention of your prospective date.
When you write your profile, stating your personal information, remember to always keep it simple and basic. Make it appear as though you are answering the question as it is. Try to avoid articulate words or statements that reveal too much emotion. This could send a lot of guys running for the hills, as self absorbed girls can be ‘high maintenance’ in the eyes of a lot of guys.
If you are getting involved in online dating for the purpose of settling down and starting a family, it is very important not to appear too forward about this in your dating profile as many men may be put off by the fact that you may be too serious about prospect of marriage.
If on the other hand you are just looking for a date, and just want to see where it going to go, don’t hold back from stating this in your profile. A lot of guys are looking for this too, and like you, would like to get to know you before making any long term commitments.
So the great advantage of online dating is that you have the opportunity to get to know your date before you actually meet in person, and in most cases this will result in a memorable first date with most of the first bases covered.
Online Dating Tips for Men
September 1, 2009 by admin · Leave a Comment
The secret to having on online dating success is to have fun. When a person participates on an online dating website, the goal is to eventually find someone as a life partner. Being too serious about the search almost always leads you to the wrong person.
With this type of dating game, having to mix objective while having fun makes the search worthwhile. Enjoy every opportunity to get to know and meet people as it can lead you to the person you are to spend your lifetime with.
Competition on online dating is high. There are lots of seekers that appear interesting. In order to keep up with the competition, keep your profile realistic yet adventurous. Think out of the box. Find ways in which your profile stands out from the rest yet remaining wholesome and approachable.
If you met a girl that is interesting, be sure to sustain ongoing conversation. Keep it sharp and interesting so as not to bore the other person. To avoid further confusion towards your true intentions, be vocal with your expectations. Also, ask for her expectations so misunderstanding may be prevented. Through this upfront behavior, it will show respect and seriousness with the entire dating per se, which is a plus factor.
When connecting with a potential partner, take things slowly. Take time to enjoy exchange of communication whether through e-mails, chats, or via phone conversations. This is an opportunity to get to know the person better.
The internet provides numerous online dating tips for men. While a lot of people find the tips effective, success of online dating still depends on how the person execute the guideline.
One important thing to remember guys is that is that not all women are necessarily looking for a ‘good looking’ guy, a majority of women are looking for qualities such as charm, maturity, intelligence and much more.