Top Five Online Dating Safety Tips
December 13, 2009 by KimLance · Leave a Comment
By Kim Lance, Associate Publisher of Online Dating Magazine
Just as in traditional dating, online dating does carry with it a few risks. There are always going to be people out there with bad or harmful intentions. While several online dating services have implemented screening and safety measures to weed out some criminals or married people, this is never foolproof, and it is entirely up to the individual to take safety measures into their own hands.
Here are five online dating safety tips that are vital to protecting yourself when dating online:
1. Make your email account anonymous. Use a free email account service like Hotmail or Yahoo! to set up an email account that does not give out any personal information. Do not use your work email address or an address that indicates your full name when communicating with online dating matches. Also, don’t give out your email address too soon. There are some people out there that use online dating services to gather email addresses from innocent singles so that they can send out SPAM messages.
2. Give your cell phone number rather than your home number when in the phone call stage of online dating. If you are listed in the phone book, giving out your home phone number is practically the same as giving out your full name and home address. With online technology, it is easy to type a home phone number into Google, and, if the number is listed, your name and address will show up along with the phone number. You may be giving out more information than you think you are.
3. Meet in a public place on your first few dates. A public place guarantees a higher level of security and safety as there will be several witnesses around and your date will not know your home address. It’s also a good idea to tell a friend where you will be and when you will be returning, just in case.
4. Always be weary of anyone asking for money. If someone you communicate with through an online dating service starts asking you for money before you meet, you can almost guarantee they are scam artists. There are “Russian Bride” agencies out there trying to scam unsuspecting men out of money by having women (sometimes the women don’t even really exist) ask for money from the men for flights out to see them, only to disappear after they receive the money. There is no reason that online dating should involve giving money to the other person. If you want to visit Iveta in Slovenia, fly out to see her, don’t blindly give her money.
5. Trust your gut. If your gut instinct tells you that a guy or girl is not telling you the truth, has bad intentions, or will end up hurting you, listen to that instinct. If you notice any red flags, such as pressing for personal information too soon, insisting to pick you up at your house for the first date, or possessive tendencies even before you meet, think twice about sharing your phone number, email address, or especially home address. Also keep an eye out for someone who may already be married. If they never want you to call, won’t give details about their lifestyle, and try to keep everything secret, there is a possibility that you are dealing with a married person.
Remember that even though some dating sites tout background checks, you have to stay on your guard. People can slip through the background check cracks so don’t let the criminal and marriage checks give you a false sense of security. Online dating can be a safe and fun way to meet quality singles, but never take anything for granted and always keep your guard up in the beginning.
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Kim Lance is the Associate Publisher of Online Dating Magazine, an Internet publication covering online dating through news, reviews, experiences, interviews, and articles.
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Online Dating and How do You Mend a Broken Heart?
December 12, 2009 by admin · Leave a Comment
To mend a broken heart is not as easy in practice as it is in theory, and I am certain that you are feeling the same as you read this, so I will stress that you should take this one step at a time.
Let me assume that you have just broken up with your partner, and you are understandably devastated. Well, I will ask you this, do you want your partner back?
For the purpose of this article I will assume that the answer is a resounding “Yes” and I will point out how you should take this ‘one step at a time’ rather than confuse the issue by witing about two entirely different topics. If you are contemplating getting your partner back, the first things you need to consider are:
1. Stop Trying!
2. Stop sending texts to him or her
3. Stop leaving “Ineed you” messages
4. Stop ‘accidently’ bumping in to him or her
5. Stop being demanding
Stop and think about those things for a moment and how you would feel if you were the one that had called the relationship off and how it would impact on you.
Possibly the best thing you could do is get out an old fashioned pen and paper, take a bit of time to write a thoughtful letter and even agree that the separation was for the best. This will show that you are not trying to be argumentative, but rather, you are trying to be positive in a negative situation and be philisophical about the separation. Show your ex partner that you are not looking for an argument or fight, but you are trying to make ammends for a soured relationship.
Show your ex partner that you really care and would like to give them a bit of time to think everything over and possibly open a new dialogue in the future.
As hard as it may feel at the time, always try to keep a positive attitude, remember the good times you had, but don’t dwell on them. It’s not as hard as you would think to mend a broken heart, just try hard to remain positive, forget about being bitter, that only breeds negativity and unhappiness. If friends offer support or advice, welcome it with open arms and take heed in what they have to say, most often the advice from a friend who’s ‘sitting on the fence’ can be the best advice you will ever get.
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