Oh poor boy, you have so much cash in your wallet and overflowing dollars$$$ in your bank account, but why are you still lonely? Aren’t you tired of dating all the high-class women but still haven’t got the love you really need? Rich or poor, fat or sexy, short or tall, employed or recently laid off, straight or gay, needs love and yes everyone deserves to be loved. And that’s the promise of online dating, to give more fun and excitement in a relationship.

Some sites are free to register and some may offer some services that require a monthly fee, but that should not stop you, because with millions of lonely people looking for great dates, new friends, romantic relationships or life-partners like you do using the internet, the benefits are

· There are so many online profiles that you can choose from.

· Meet different people with different races by just a click of your mouse.

· No dress codes or no dress at all, may be funny but true since many online sites are offering adult dating services, where you can just let yourself out and free, especially when you’re up for sexual relationship.

· Cheaper – you don’t need to go out or spend too much for ordering expensive dishes on a dinner at restaurants to impress your date. Definitely a big help during recession period.

A lot of online dating sites have a wide variety of members looking for different types of relationships. While other dating sites are more specific but either way, you can narrow down your search based on the type of members, age range, gender, interests, religion, location, or desired relationship. In fact, there are more and more people each day who are joining online dating sites.

However, love shouldn’t stop by just dating online. Meet singles from other places, nearby or outside the country. As love can move mountains and of course love can lead you at the same place called an “altar” too, (only if the love is genuine) where you can share your vows together and live happily ever after. So never worry of moving from place to place as online dating can give you a chance to travel, go to exciting places while getting to know each other more. No one is ever too old for love, but good relationships starts with a friendship, so start looking for an online friend now and enjoy exchanging messages (e-mails, chat, voice chat), share photos, video chat, show your romantic desires, flirt or just do whatever you like.

Love is in the air… Love is everywhere… Love is limitless…

Are you worth enough the faith of someone else? Or are you into travel and adventure? Then long distance relationship could be one cool thing that might be of your interest. Online dating is no typical one… Meet singles online, meet other people at any ages anywhere around the globe and date with them as much as you can.

I am not saying that someone should be polygamous, but I’m just opening the door of your mind so you can see a better look of the real single life, worry-free and enjoying the gift of being single. Meet interesting people, single and young professionals, foreign friends, so stop complaining about your ex who just left you for someone else. Don’t be afraid of meeting other people and don’t lose the opportunity of dating someone new, stop worrying about the color of your skin or your real sexuality – everything is possible so you should end up stalking your neighbors’ daughter, there are lot of other women who are right out there waiting for some love to come alive, and they’re waiting for you. Who knows you might be one of those people who will lived happily after they’ve met they’re true love on the internet. In fact 1 of 8 married couples in the United States just met online. And no wonder, you could find that someone special too through dating with the use of your personal computer and the internet.

Of course we all know that in every relationship, there should be “Chemistry” between the two people involved, and it is very significant that you have developed the chemistry even before fulfilling your actual first date. It reminds me of the song, “I knew I loved you before I met you”. Sweet!

Start making your online account.

There are lots of services that offer “chatroom” or “IMs”.

Search profiles on the internet.

There’s someone for everyone so don’t stop looking for a casual date, serious relationship, or the more erotic “intimate encounters”! Feel free to choose – win some otherwise rejection and embarrassment isn’t too distressful unlike on a traditional dating.

If you think dating offline isn’t working for you, then try using your computer and the internet now, browse for some good profile to your gusto and have fun!

Firstly, the ‘Right’ online dating site depends on what sort of dating relationship you are looking for and believe me, there are literally thousands of different niche dating sites available that would undoubtedly cater for just about everyone’s taste.

For example, there are Christian dating sites, Asian dating sites, lesbian dating sites, seniors dating sites, adult dating sites and so the list goes on and on.

Most online dating sites are legitimate and will satisfy even the most discerning would be dater, however when it comes to adult online dating sites, this is where you have to be a bit more cautious as some are nothing but a scam with the one intention of helping themselves to your hard earned money. That being said, there are some excellent adult online dating sites that cater for a wide variety of tastes, but are strictly off limits to minors.

Now it’s a good idea to be well prepared before you go searching for that special online dating site so here’s a good way to prepare yourself.

Firstly, determine what type of relationship you are looking for, something serious that is going to lead to marriage perhaps, or something more casual to ease you back in to the online dating scene, or maybe a laid back friendship based encounter that may lead to a romantic relationship.

Next, create a list of things that you are looking for in a relationship, friend, date or sexual partner. Do they need to share the same interests as you, do they have to be the same height, live in the same town, should they be a single parent, or speak a particular language? There are online dating sites that cater for these individual factors and they may be useful to you in your search.

Next, decide whether or not you want to choose a paid dating service or a free dating service. There are several excellent free dating sites online, but to be perfectly honest the paid dating sites tend to offer a lot more in the way of services and are definitely worth the cost. Some offer monthly subscriptions so you are not locked in for a great length of time, which is great if you find the partner of your dreams soon after you have signed up.

The next step is to start searching for a suitable online dating site. If a friend or colleague has recommended a site go and take a look and see if they have what you are looking for. Try the search engines using keywords that match what you are looking for, e.g if you are looking for an Asian, type in ‘Asian Dating’. Try to narrow your search down to 5-10 sites, of these sites try to work out which ones offer you the best options for the criteria you are searching for.

After a week or two you will notice that you are frequenting some sites more that others, maybe they have better options or the response rate is better, maybe the singles that are on offer have more in common with what you are searching for. Whatever it is, try to focus on the one site that offers you the best results.

There are also thousands of books available online to help you with online dating, and if it’s a new experience for you these can be an extremely valuable resource to help you in your search for that special partner you are searching for.

By Joe Tracy, lead visioneer of the DateLists.com Online Dating Directory

Every year, hundreds of thousands of people find their “perfect match” through online dating services. And every year hundreds of thousands more become discouraged from their experiences. One of the contributing factors to those who have problems with online dating is the emergence of the “professional online dater”, a term coined by Online Dating Magazine to describe a person who acts serious about finding someone, but without the intention of taking any date or relationship “too seriously” because the next match “may be better.”

A professional online dater usually possesses three or more of the following habits:

> Communicating with more than six people at the same time.

> Member of three or more online dating services at the same time.

> Relists profile within 24 hours of a relationship breakup.

> Lets several communications just “end” in order to put time into new communications.

> Checks messages and dating services several times a day.

> Always believes that the next match “may be better”.

> Several times a year will have more than one date, with different people, set up in a week.

> At the first sign of trouble in a potential relationship, lets things break off to return to online dating.

> May hide profile, but doesn’t delete it, when steadily dating one person.

> When returning from a date, immediately checks mail for new messages from others.

Generally, a person doesn’t consciously say “I want to become a professional online dater” then pursue it as a life goal. It is something that develops as a result of the person’s online dating experiences. He/she sees how “easy” it is to get a new date and is introduced to new faces virtually daily. Before the person knows it, he/she is communicating with half a dozen (or more) people at the same time. When a date is arranged with one person there are still six prospects waiting in the person’s Inbox when he/she returns from the date. This, in turn, starts to develop a subconscious mentality that the next person may be “better,” therefore it is easier to leave a relationship or dating experience at the first sign of trouble rather than work through those problems.

A professional online dater will generally ‘hide’ a profile versus deleting it when entering into an exclusive dating relationship. Subconsciously, the person isn’t truly giving his or her 100% to the relationship because they have formulated an easy escape route back to the planet of dates.

Professional online daters, without realizing it, are having a negative effect on the people they come in contact with during their expeditions. For example, a professional online dater may be writing seven people at the same time, when another new interesting prospect shows up. In turn, the professional online dater allows communication with one (or more) of the other seven people to suddenly stop, leaving that person without answers and wondering, “where did he/she disappear to?” The other problem professional online daters bring to online dating is their lack of true commitment. They may have three, four or even more relationships a year. The relationships are generally short-lived and the professional online dater has a new date lined up (with someone new he/she met online) within several days of a breakup.

A person who possesses three or more traits of a professional online dater may not want to admit that he/she is a professional online dater, but doing so is the first step to solving the problem. Other steps to solving the problem are:

> Completely delete your profile(s) when entering into a relationship. There’s no looking back, only forward.

> Commit yourself to your relationship with a strong determination to work through the problems. Working through issues in a relationship is what helps people to grow. Running away is not the solution.

> If you stop communicating with someone, don’t do it cold turkey. At least send that person a polite note so that he/she knows why. The person will respect you more for this.

> Find one online dating service that you like and stick with it. This isn’t a game to see how many new people you can communicate with. Every person you communicate with is a real person with real feelings. Don’t lead them on.

> Only communicate with a small number of people at a time.

> Don’t fall into the mentality of “the next one might be better.” Instead, focus on the person you are with and know that they are “the best”. Then make it work.

Professional online daters unintentionally hurt many people during the course of their “adventure”. But perhaps what’s worse is that professional online daters hurt themselves because they never learn to work through relationship issues that produce long-term relationship success. Luckily, with determination, professional online daters can change and when they put the same intense focus on a relationship (like they did with online dating) then the relationship generally turns into an amazing and long-lasting experience. And that produces another success story from two people who met online.

–

Joe Tracy is the lead visioneer of the new DateLists.com Online Dating Directory, a directory and reference resrouce for online daters.

This article is copyright and may not be republished. Used with permission.