With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, what is a person to do? Call a florist? Get chocolate and lingerie? Book a last-minute flight for a tropical paradise?

Valentines Day Gifts

While coaching people in performance development, I noticed that we humans tend to establish patterns. Dream ruts if you will. Get married on the beach in Hawaii. Vacation with the family at Disney. Take a break in Palm Springs or Costa Rica. Travel to a vogue destination during a summer or winter break. Go out to dinner and a movie on date night. Any of this sound familiar? We may create and sustain these dream ruts; yet that doesn’t mean that they sing our own unique and beautiful romantic song.

So how does a person get out of the rut and into the ideal? Well, how about using romance to create romance? Like most things development, it takes a bit of clarity and awareness of what is and is not valued by the people involved in order to do this. If you haven’t started the dialogue about what your loved one truly values romantically, this could be a good opportunity. I suggest sidestepping assumptions, and, if desired, make it fun and romantic. Rather like an adventure of getting to know your loved one in a new way, do this over the course of several days or weeks.

Valentines Day Gifts

Get started by using as many 2-3 word descriptors of each of your perfect getaways as comes to mind. Include action-oriented verbs and capture as much as you can on a large piece of paper or a white board, audio or video recorder, or anything else that seems to work. You could include charades and various costumes. Tickling and eye rolling allowed as long as it’s in good fun and no one feels put down or demeaned: grin.

Then each person should select the top 5 descriptors that sing or best represent his or her perfect getaway.

Next, give compelling reasons, without interruption, about why the selected values are important. Be sure to have resources available: a computer to look up destinations, etc.

Decide by continuing steps 2 & 3 until consensus is reached about the top 5 descriptors that mutually describe the ideal romantic getaway. Each person should feel that the final 5 choices fully represent what he or she values without feeling coerced.

Once consensus is reached, then it is time to write the vision statement. The vision statement should be simple. The daring two of us passionately dream of the Seychelles or the Maldives this Valentine’s Day week to set the stage for romantic misadventures and unexpected fun. The values in this example are daring, being together, shared passionate dreaming, and having romantic misadventures and unexpected fun. Ask yourselves who is involved? What is the shared vision? What is the time frame? Why do both of you value it? What is the desired outcome? Remember that values should be driven by action-oriented and less subjective verbs. Also, be creative with the getaway location. Romance can be had just about anywhere if the mood is right and it’s not illegal: grin. Remember, it’s about the two of you and how you feel. No golden-plated doorknobs needed for sharing and receiving love from your beloved.

After you have your vision statement, which is what you want, then it is time to build your mission statement. If you did the work with the vision statement, the mission statement should be easier than the vision statement or almost equationlike. The mission statement is the how or container of what you want. It is meant to demonstrate the verbs in the vision statement. So, the mission of [the individuals involved] [time frame] is to [action verb and description] [how often] from [when to when] by [action-verb(s) and description(s) of action] to [where or what] [in what manner] until [what occurs]. For example, the mission of us daring two from 10-17 Feb 2012 is to celebrate our love by flying to the Seychelles and then the Maldives, dancing on beaches, climbing coconut trees, running wild through the forest, and climbing tall hills until we are exhausted yet overflowing with stories that immortalize our love.

Once you have agreement, then you know what you want and how you’re going to get it. After that, it’s a matter of assembling the bits needed.
The outcome could be anything from a tent in your backyard glowing with candles, incense, beautiful music, and a foot massage to a breathtaking nomadic riding adventure in Mongolia or Mihir Garh in Jodhpur, Rajasthan, India. The point is to create a platform for sharing, hearing, honoring, and celebrating what is deeply important to the love in your life!

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Author: Deone Benninghoven

Valentines Day Gifts

Love is in the air… Love is everywhere… Love is limitless…

Are you worth enough the faith of someone else? Or are you into travel and adventure? Then long distance relationship could be one cool thing that might be of your interest. Online dating is no typical one… Meet singles online, meet other people at any ages anywhere around the globe and date with them as much as you can.

I am not saying that someone should be polygamous, but I’m just opening the door of your mind so you can see a better look of the real single life, worry-free and enjoying the gift of being single. Meet interesting people, single and young professionals, foreign friends, so stop complaining about your ex who just left you for someone else. Don’t be afraid of meeting other people and don’t lose the opportunity of dating someone new, stop worrying about the color of your skin or your real sexuality – everything is possible so you should end up stalking your neighbors’ daughter, there are lot of other women who are right out there waiting for some love to come alive, and they’re waiting for you. Who knows you might be one of those people who will lived happily after they’ve met they’re true love on the internet. In fact 1 of 8 married couples in the United States just met online. And no wonder, you could find that someone special too through dating with the use of your personal computer and the internet.

Of course we all know that in every relationship, there should be “Chemistry” between the two people involved, and it is very significant that you have developed the chemistry even before fulfilling your actual first date. It reminds me of the song, “I knew I loved you before I met you”. Sweet!

Start making your online account.

There are lots of services that offer “chatroom” or “IMs”.

Search profiles on the internet.

There’s someone for everyone so don’t stop looking for a casual date, serious relationship, or the more erotic “intimate encounters”! Feel free to choose – win some otherwise rejection and embarrassment isn’t too distressful unlike on a traditional dating.

If you think dating offline isn’t working for you, then try using your computer and the internet now, browse for some good profile to your gusto and have fun!

Online dating has quickly become the number one choice for singles to meet people to date. The online dating industry has been continually growing in popularity and for good reason. If you are on the fence about whether to try out online dating as a way to find romance, consider these five positive reasons why using an online dating service might be a good choice for you.

1. Greater Choice
A single utilizing an online dating service has a better choice of potential matches than a single using more traditional dating methods like the local bar or coffee shop. With online dating you are allowed to browse through several profiles looking for that special someone. When you head to the corner coffee shop you only have a chance of meeting a handful of single people, and sometimes never meet anyone at all. With online dating you have greatly increased your chances of finding someone interesting.

2. Get What You Want
Many online dating services allow you to search through profiles based on certain key phrases or through a filtering process. By only looking through profiles that have the word “Christian” or “sports fan” in them, you have an increased chance in finding someone that shares your views and interests and eliminated those that don’t. When you meet a man or woman at a bar, you have no way of telling right off the bat if they are Christian or Atheist, a San Diego Charger’s fan or if they think that football is a violent sport. By using search functions and filtering on online dating services to identify profiles of potential matches, you can eliminate the time spent looking through profiles of people that do not share your interests.

3. Personal Info Can Stay Private
A great thing about online dating is its anonymity. When initiating contact with someone you have been attracted to online, you don’t have to give out any personal information…not even your email address. You can take time to really get to know a person before giving out personal information like your phone number, unlike other forms of meeting people. If you meet someone at a singles spot, you are forced to give away your phone number in order to keep in contact, even if you have just met the person and don’t know enough about him or her to know if they have good intentions.

4. Fears and Embarrassment Can Be Reduced
If you decide to contact someone though email you can take the time to really plan out what you want to say to that person with online dating. If you see someone across the room and try to approach them, sometimes nerves and embarrassment can get the best of you. You may have planned out what you were going to say, but when you approach it all gets flustered coming out of your mouth. With online dating you can sit down and think about your email, read it over a couple times, and send it knowing that you have expressed yourself to the best of your ability. The social awkwardness that can come with approaching someone on the fly in person is virtually eliminated.

5. It’s a One on One Experience
At a bar, club, coffee shop, or other traditional singles meeting place, it is almost impossible to make a personal connection with someone you are interested in. There is active competition for attention at these social gatherings and a one on one interaction can be very hard to come by. With online dating it is personal right from the beginning. You communicate one on one in a private email conversation with the person you are interested in and are able to form a personal connection right off the bat, rather than compete in a room full of other single guys and gals all out for the same goal.

For singles fed up with the traditional dating scene, and looking for a change, online dating may be the way to go. You can meet more people with similar interests without sharing personal information and, once you find the perfect profile, you can form an immediate personal connection. It is certainly worth a try.

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Kim Lance is the Associate Publisher of Online Dating Magazine, an Internet publication covering online dating through news, reviews, experiences, interviews, and articles.

This article is copyright and may not be republished. Used with permission.

Are you trying to find a way to win an ex boyfriend back, but you have found out that he is already dating someone else? Are you worried that things are getting way too serious with this other girl?

Well firstly, you have to stand back and take an objective view of the whole situation. True, he might be dating someone else, but remember, he has spent a lot more time with you. This history you have together will prove to be crucial when you are trying to win back an ex boyfriend.

Now, think about your past relationship with him. Was it really as good as you think it was, or are you really only focusing on the positive aspects of the relationship? If you really want to win an ex boyfriend back, you will need to do some soul searching and answer this question truthfully first.

After an objective examination of the relationship, you may figure out that some of your behaviour was at least partly to blame for the breakup. Now, granted, he probably contributed to it too, but the only thing you have control over is your own behaviour.

In your mission to win back an ex boyfriend, firstly you need to concentrate on improving yourself before you try to get back together with him. You need to find the demons that brought your relationship down and work out how to eliminate them. If you are successful with this, you have a much stronger chance for long-term success in your relationship after you win him back.

When you have found the new and improved version of your former self, get in touch with him and ask him if you can get together for a chat. Make this an informal meeting, like a coffee in a café with a nice atmosphere. Be cool with him and show him that you are doing fine by yourself, but wouldn’t mind trying to restore the relationship. Try to emphasise the benefits of a restored relationship, like all the good things you have going for each other

Once you’ve put your case out there for him to consider, take a breather for a while, give him a chance to absorb what you said and react to it. Bare in mind that he’s in another relationship right now, so he’s going to require some time to think about all this and work out what his feelings are about the whole situation.

Depart the meeting amicably and emphasise to him that you really hope he will think about what you have said, and hopefully decide to restore your relationship. If you follow this plan, it will not be long before you win an ex boyfriend back.