Valentines Day
January 27, 2012 by admin · Leave a Comment
Saint Valentines Day commonly known as Valentines Day is held worldwide on February 14th celebrating the love and affection between lovers and intimate companions. The origin of Valentines Day dates back to 496 AD and was established by Pope Gelasius in honour of the late Christian martyr Saint Valentine.
Traditionally lovers express their love for one another buy giving gifts such as flowers, chocolate and other more elaborate gifts. In the old days people would exchage hand written notes, which have now been replaced by cards or more recently, e-cards.
Traditional shopping for Valentines gifts can be quite laborious if you are not sure what to by for your loved one, but now there is the option to shop online which makes the process a lot easier and very interesting. There are simply thousands of gift ideas available through online stores that can cater for every taste imaginable. If you follow the link attached to this article you will see what I mean, there are so many romantic gift ideas, more than just chocolate or flowers.
Romantic Getaways
January 26, 2012 by admin · Leave a Comment
With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, what is a person to do? Call a florist? Get chocolate and lingerie? Book a last-minute flight for a tropical paradise?
While coaching people in performance development, I noticed that we humans tend to establish patterns. Dream ruts if you will. Get married on the beach in Hawaii. Vacation with the family at Disney. Take a break in Palm Springs or Costa Rica. Travel to a vogue destination during a summer or winter break. Go out to dinner and a movie on date night. Any of this sound familiar? We may create and sustain these dream ruts; yet that doesn’t mean that they sing our own unique and beautiful romantic song.
So how does a person get out of the rut and into the ideal? Well, how about using romance to create romance? Like most things development, it takes a bit of clarity and awareness of what is and is not valued by the people involved in order to do this. If you haven’t started the dialogue about what your loved one truly values romantically, this could be a good opportunity. I suggest sidestepping assumptions, and, if desired, make it fun and romantic. Rather like an adventure of getting to know your loved one in a new way, do this over the course of several days or weeks.
Get started by using as many 2-3 word descriptors of each of your perfect getaways as comes to mind. Include action-oriented verbs and capture as much as you can on a large piece of paper or a white board, audio or video recorder, or anything else that seems to work. You could include charades and various costumes. Tickling and eye rolling allowed as long as it’s in good fun and no one feels put down or demeaned: grin.
Then each person should select the top 5 descriptors that sing or best represent his or her perfect getaway.
Next, give compelling reasons, without interruption, about why the selected values are important. Be sure to have resources available: a computer to look up destinations, etc.
Decide by continuing steps 2 & 3 until consensus is reached about the top 5 descriptors that mutually describe the ideal romantic getaway. Each person should feel that the final 5 choices fully represent what he or she values without feeling coerced.
Once consensus is reached, then it is time to write the vision statement. The vision statement should be simple. The daring two of us passionately dream of the Seychelles or the Maldives this Valentine’s Day week to set the stage for romantic misadventures and unexpected fun. The values in this example are daring, being together, shared passionate dreaming, and having romantic misadventures and unexpected fun. Ask yourselves who is involved? What is the shared vision? What is the time frame? Why do both of you value it? What is the desired outcome? Remember that values should be driven by action-oriented and less subjective verbs. Also, be creative with the getaway location. Romance can be had just about anywhere if the mood is right and it’s not illegal: grin. Remember, it’s about the two of you and how you feel. No golden-plated doorknobs needed for sharing and receiving love from your beloved.
After you have your vision statement, which is what you want, then it is time to build your mission statement. If you did the work with the vision statement, the mission statement should be easier than the vision statement or almost equationlike. The mission statement is the how or container of what you want. It is meant to demonstrate the verbs in the vision statement. So, the mission of [the individuals involved] [time frame] is to [action verb and description] [how often] from [when to when] by [action-verb(s) and description(s) of action] to [where or what] [in what manner] until [what occurs]. For example, the mission of us daring two from 10-17 Feb 2012 is to celebrate our love by flying to the Seychelles and then the Maldives, dancing on beaches, climbing coconut trees, running wild through the forest, and climbing tall hills until we are exhausted yet overflowing with stories that immortalize our love.
Once you have agreement, then you know what you want and how you’re going to get it. After that, it’s a matter of assembling the bits needed.
The outcome could be anything from a tent in your backyard glowing with candles, incense, beautiful music, and a foot massage to a breathtaking nomadic riding adventure in Mongolia or Mihir Garh in Jodhpur, Rajasthan, India. The point is to create a platform for sharing, hearing, honoring, and celebrating what is deeply important to the love in your life!
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Author: Deone Benninghoven
Adult Online Relationship
August 10, 2010 by admin · 1 Comment
• Immeasurable dead end relationships
• Lack of intimacy
• Marrying type but always seem to attract the wrong person.
• You’ve seen the perfect person but totally different than you believed them to be.
Increasingly more men and women today tend to find lifetime or sexual partners on the internet for some factual reasons;
Lack of time finding someone special through traditional dating, hectic working schedule or maybe you just can’t find someone in your community who is good enough to meet your qualifications. Nevertheless, finding a lover through online dating sites is the most effective solution to connect with possible dating, sexual or lifetime partners, but just a reminder it also has some stumbling blocks.
Online dating agencies offer a quick way to connect interested men or women with each other but instant messaging like Y!Messenger, Google Talk, AIM, ICQ, Meebo and alike is a more speedy method to get these people to be very intimate in an “instant”. Yes, it is true – since instant messaging offers Live chat and live video sharing, what you see is what you get –
no holds barred. Adult online dating indeed gives you more confidence. However, be it online or in real world, finding “real love” requires honesty and proper care which allows you to be more responsible human being having said that, you should know
how to stand the risks that it could bring you. But the best part is, no one will see you blushing when you feel annoyed or embarrassed and is much safer than dating for real with someone you hardly know. Okay, smart enough not to date with strangers huh?! Admit it or not, we people no matter how intelligent we are we also wanna experience some adventures and challenges. Why? Because we all want to feel being loved and give love and this is what pushes us to take the risks in meeting possible mates.
How to deal with Online relationship?
So now you are all set up, you already have this online adult dating site, you’ve got all the best dating tips and advice and you’ve grown weary about how to really use them or somehow you’re tired of singles dating scene and you want to explore more – you’re far more interested in romantic love (as we all are).
Letting the online relationship work on its own isn’t much advisable. You and your partner have to work for it as much and as soon as possible, not to leave it with empty promises. Break the silence. Since adult chatting can give you more confidence to express yourself more than an alcohol can do. The point is – take an action quickly assuming that you are both happy nevertheless you neither want to wait nor let the other person wait for you for a long time to bring the relationship to the next level. Take it or leave it. Given long enough time to prove your love for each other is a key to gain a more intimate and healthy relationship.
While you think you’re brave enough to meet this wonderful person or you think you know a lot about the person on the other end but meeting for real is undeniably strange –thus, it is much wiser to consider caution beforehand especially if you have to meet with him/her in a different country or else you’re gonna be stuck in a foreign land.
All in all it is very much crucial to develop your relationship through online messaging, while exchanging phone calls and seeing each other through live video sharing.
Why online dating is fun?
July 22, 2010 by admin · Leave a Comment
Love is in the air… Love is everywhere… Love is limitless…
Are you worth enough the faith of someone else? Or are you into travel and adventure? Then long distance relationship could be one cool thing that might be of your interest. Online dating is no typical one… Meet singles online, meet other people at any ages anywhere around the globe and date with them as much as you can.
I am not saying that someone should be polygamous, but I’m just opening the door of your mind so you can see a better look of the real single life, worry-free and enjoying the gift of being single. Meet interesting people, single and young professionals, foreign friends, so stop complaining about your ex who just left you for someone else. Don’t be afraid of meeting other people and don’t lose the opportunity of dating someone new, stop worrying about the color of your skin or your real sexuality – everything is possible so you should end up stalking your neighbors’ daughter, there are lot of other women who are right out there waiting for some love to come alive, and they’re waiting for you. Who knows you might be one of those people who will lived happily after they’ve met they’re true love on the internet. In fact 1 of 8 married couples in the United States just met online. And no wonder, you could find that someone special too through dating with the use of your personal computer and the internet.
Of course we all know that in every relationship, there should be “Chemistry” between the two people involved, and it is very significant that you have developed the chemistry even before fulfilling your actual first date. It reminds me of the song, “I knew I loved you before I met you”. Sweet!
Start making your online account.
There are lots of services that offer “chatroom” or “IMs”.
Search profiles on the internet.
There’s someone for everyone so don’t stop looking for a casual date, serious relationship, or the more erotic “intimate encounters”! Feel free to choose – win some otherwise rejection and embarrassment isn’t too distressful unlike on a traditional dating.
If you think dating offline isn’t working for you, then try using your computer and the internet now, browse for some good profile to your gusto and have fun!
Finding the Right Online Dating Site
January 15, 2010 by admin · Leave a Comment
Firstly, the ‘Right’ online dating site depends on what sort of dating relationship you are looking for and believe me, there are literally thousands of different niche dating sites available that would undoubtedly cater for just about everyone’s taste.
For example, there are Christian dating sites, Asian dating sites, lesbian dating sites, seniors dating sites, adult dating sites and so the list goes on and on.
Most online dating sites are legitimate and will satisfy even the most discerning would be dater, however when it comes to adult online dating sites, this is where you have to be a bit more cautious as some are nothing but a scam with the one intention of helping themselves to your hard earned money. That being said, there are some excellent adult online dating sites that cater for a wide variety of tastes, but are strictly off limits to minors.
Now it’s a good idea to be well prepared before you go searching for that special online dating site so here’s a good way to prepare yourself.
Firstly, determine what type of relationship you are looking for, something serious that is going to lead to marriage perhaps, or something more casual to ease you back in to the online dating scene, or maybe a laid back friendship based encounter that may lead to a romantic relationship.
Next, create a list of things that you are looking for in a relationship, friend, date or sexual partner. Do they need to share the same interests as you, do they have to be the same height, live in the same town, should they be a single parent, or speak a particular language? There are online dating sites that cater for these individual factors and they may be useful to you in your search.
Next, decide whether or not you want to choose a paid dating service or a free dating service. There are several excellent free dating sites online, but to be perfectly honest the paid dating sites tend to offer a lot more in the way of services and are definitely worth the cost. Some offer monthly subscriptions so you are not locked in for a great length of time, which is great if you find the partner of your dreams soon after you have signed up.
The next step is to start searching for a suitable online dating site. If a friend or colleague has recommended a site go and take a look and see if they have what you are looking for. Try the search engines using keywords that match what you are looking for, e.g if you are looking for an Asian, type in ‘Asian Dating’. Try to narrow your search down to 5-10 sites, of these sites try to work out which ones offer you the best options for the criteria you are searching for.
After a week or two you will notice that you are frequenting some sites more that others, maybe they have better options or the response rate is better, maybe the singles that are on offer have more in common with what you are searching for. Whatever it is, try to focus on the one site that offers you the best results.
There are also thousands of books available online to help you with online dating, and if it’s a new experience for you these can be an extremely valuable resource to help you in your search for that special partner you are searching for.
The Unique Gift of Roses
November 14, 2009 by KimLance · Leave a Comment
By Kim Lance for the Date Gifts Website
Whether your going on a first date, celebrating your 10-year anniversary, or proposing marriage, roses can be the perfect gift to complement any romantic occasion. Giving the gift of roses provides a certain impression of elegance and class that can really impress your partner. Couples have been expressing their love to one another with roses for centuries. However, because it is such a common gift, you may want to put a bit more thought into how you can make your gift of roses unique. Don’t run the risk of looking cliché in the eyes of your date; add some creative thought to your gift. There are a few ways to give the elegance of roses and yet still make the gift creative:
1. Roses With a Message
One unique way to give roses as a gift is by putting a message directly on the petals of your roses. SpeakingRoses.com allows you to inscribe a brief message on your rose to add a little creativity to this classic gift. For a first date you can have a flirty “Hey Cutie” written on the petals or, for a romantic time such as an anniversary, you can have “I love you” written. You can even put “Will you marry me?” on a rose as a unique proposal method.
2. Gold Trimmed Single Rose
Several florists (and even some jewelers) will sell roses that are trimmed in gold. While this will cost you a bit more than a dozen regular roses, a single gold trimmed rose can add a level of deep romance to your gift, not to mention creativity. An added benefit to a gold trimmed rose is that is lasts much longer than a regular rose. Roses are typically enameled and trimmed in gold to give them the look of fresh cut roses with the special sparkle of gold.
3. The Chocolate Rose
Many women (and some men too) love flowers almost as much as they love chocolate. Why not give two gifts in one with the chocolate rose! Gourmet chocolate and candy shops often sell chocolates that have been formed into unique shapes for special occasion gifts. One of those shapes is usually in the form of a single rose. You can buy one chocolate rose or buy a dozen and arrange them as if they were a bouquet of real roses. If your date loves chocolate she (or he) will undoubtedly be pleasantly surprised.
4. One Rose Stands Out From The Crowd
If you are planning to give the traditional gift of a dozen roses, but want to add that extra creative flair, go to your florist and buy a 11 red roses, and 1 uniquely colored rose. Roses can come in a variety of colors so make sure the single rose is enough of a contrast to stand out from the 11 red roses, but that the color does not clash with the other roses. When you deliver your bouquet tell your special someone that their amazing beauty makes them stand out from the rest of the crowd and that the single beautiful rose that is set apart from the group of red roses symbolizes that special beauty in your partner.
These are four distinctive ways to make your gift of roses have a stronger impression on your significant other. While roses are a wonderful gift to celebrate your loved one or a special occasion in your relationship, adding some creativity by using one of these ideas may help you better show what a unique impact your partner has had on your life and further emphasize how much you care for them. It will also create a vivid happy memory for your loved one to treasure for years to come.
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Kim Lance is the Associate Publisher of Online Dating Magazine, an Internet publication covering online dating through news, reviews, experiences, interviews, and articles. She is also a regular contributor to DateGifts.com.
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Have a Crush? Here’s How to Let Them Know
November 7, 2009 by KimLance · Leave a Comment
By Kim Lance, Associate Publisher of Online Dating Magazine
We have all experienced it… the butterflies in your stomach when you see him or her from across the room; the shortness of breath when you brush past your crush or stand close to him or her in the elevator; the increased heart rate when your arms lean against each other in the movie theater. These are all signals that you are falling for someone. Recognizing this is easy, but letting someone know your feelings is much more complicated. Here are a few ways to hint to your crush that you are developing feelings beyond friendship and to find out if they feel the same.
The Honest Approach
The easiest way is to take a deep breath and spill the beans to him or her directly. Just set a time where you can get your crush alone and tell him or her your true feelings and ask if they feel the same. You will be laying it all out on the line and possibly setting yourself up for immediate rejection, but it is the quickest way to get it all off your chest. This method takes a huge amount of self-esteem, however. If you are not a self-confidence superhero, perhaps a more subtle approach would be best.
Increase the Flirt Factor
A good way to feel out the possibility of a friend becoming more than a friend is to slowly become flirtier with the object of your affection. Smiling a lot, making lots of eye contact, an occasional wink and quick, private glances when in a social setting can give your crush subtle signs that you are giving them more attention than others. If you pay particular attention to your crush over other people it shows your crush that you have special feelings for him or her.
Get More Physical
Take any opportunity you can to reach out and touch your crush. No, I don’t mean invading their space and making them feel uncomfortable. Simple take opportunities to touch their arm or hand as you engage in conversation. Give your crush a hug when saying goodbye or greeting each other. Nudge them in a flirty way when joking with them and lean in close when they are telling you a story or secret. Increased physicial contact is a good way to drop hints that you would like to be closer to him or her, both relationship wise, and physically.
Be Plentiful With Your Compliments
Start complimenting your crush when they get a haircut or wear a nice outfit. This will not only make your crush feel better about themselves, but will also let them know you think they are attractive. Making comments like “you have such a great sense of humor” when your crush makes a joke or “you are so smart” when discussing an important issue is a good way to let your crush know you really like them.
No tactic is foolproof, and it may still require you flat out telling your crush your feelings if they don’t get the hint, but they could help you get a better sense of how your crush feels about you. With any of these tactics, it is important to read your crush’s responses. If they respond to your comments or actions by getting embarrassed or annoyed, chances are they don’t feel the same about you. If they respond to flirting with more flirting, it is a good sign they are crushing on you too.
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Kim Lance is the Associate Publisher of Online Dating Magazine, an Internet publication covering online dating through news, reviews, experiences, interviews, and articles.
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Is Online Dating a Good Choice for You?
October 9, 2009 by KimLance · Leave a Comment
Online dating has quickly become the number one choice for singles to meet people to date. The online dating industry has been continually growing in popularity and for good reason. If you are on the fence about whether to try out online dating as a way to find romance, consider these five positive reasons why using an online dating service might be a good choice for you.
1. Greater Choice
A single utilizing an online dating service has a better choice of potential matches than a single using more traditional dating methods like the local bar or coffee shop. With online dating you are allowed to browse through several profiles looking for that special someone. When you head to the corner coffee shop you only have a chance of meeting a handful of single people, and sometimes never meet anyone at all. With online dating you have greatly increased your chances of finding someone interesting.
2. Get What You Want
Many online dating services allow you to search through profiles based on certain key phrases or through a filtering process. By only looking through profiles that have the word “Christian” or “sports fan” in them, you have an increased chance in finding someone that shares your views and interests and eliminated those that don’t. When you meet a man or woman at a bar, you have no way of telling right off the bat if they are Christian or Atheist, a San Diego Charger’s fan or if they think that football is a violent sport. By using search functions and filtering on online dating services to identify profiles of potential matches, you can eliminate the time spent looking through profiles of people that do not share your interests.
3. Personal Info Can Stay Private
A great thing about online dating is its anonymity. When initiating contact with someone you have been attracted to online, you don’t have to give out any personal information…not even your email address. You can take time to really get to know a person before giving out personal information like your phone number, unlike other forms of meeting people. If you meet someone at a singles spot, you are forced to give away your phone number in order to keep in contact, even if you have just met the person and don’t know enough about him or her to know if they have good intentions.
4. Fears and Embarrassment Can Be Reduced
If you decide to contact someone though email you can take the time to really plan out what you want to say to that person with online dating. If you see someone across the room and try to approach them, sometimes nerves and embarrassment can get the best of you. You may have planned out what you were going to say, but when you approach it all gets flustered coming out of your mouth. With online dating you can sit down and think about your email, read it over a couple times, and send it knowing that you have expressed yourself to the best of your ability. The social awkwardness that can come with approaching someone on the fly in person is virtually eliminated.
5. It’s a One on One Experience
At a bar, club, coffee shop, or other traditional singles meeting place, it is almost impossible to make a personal connection with someone you are interested in. There is active competition for attention at these social gatherings and a one on one interaction can be very hard to come by. With online dating it is personal right from the beginning. You communicate one on one in a private email conversation with the person you are interested in and are able to form a personal connection right off the bat, rather than compete in a room full of other single guys and gals all out for the same goal.
For singles fed up with the traditional dating scene, and looking for a change, online dating may be the way to go. You can meet more people with similar interests without sharing personal information and, once you find the perfect profile, you can form an immediate personal connection. It is certainly worth a try.
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Kim Lance is the Associate Publisher of Online Dating Magazine, an Internet publication covering online dating through news, reviews, experiences, interviews, and articles.
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Winter Date Ideas
October 2, 2009 by KimLance · Leave a Comment
By Kim Lance, Associate Publisher of Online Dating Magazine
The warm days of summer provide the perfect conditions for exciting romance and fun outdoor date ideas, but as the seasons change and the winter winds pick up, many couples may find it more difficult to come up with exciting date ideas when its cold, rainy, and, sometimes, snowy outside. Here are five winter date ideas to help keep those warm feelings between you and your sweetie burning even when it isn’t warm outside.
Winter Date Idea #1: Ice Skating
Wrap up in scarves and gloves and take your partner to the local ice rink for some fun winter-time exercise. Due to the cold weather, you and your loved one may have given up some of the outdoor date activities that would bring you together during warmer months. Don’t give up on outdoor activities just because its winter. Ice skating can be romantic (holding hands, picking her up when she falls) as well as great outdoor exercise.
Winter Date Idea #2: Christmas Light Gazing
Take advantage of all of the holiday house decorating during the Christmas season by planning a date to drive around your neighborhood looking at Christmas lights. You can keep warm in your car, listening to Christmas music or romantic tunes and share the joy of brightly lit houses with sparkling colorful lights and festive decorations.
Winter Date Idea #3: Snuggling By The Fire
What is more romantic than gathering under some warm blankets in front of a blazing fire? If you have a fireplace in your house or apartment, make a date with your partner to spend some cuddle time in front of a fire. You can make hot chocolate and keep warm by the fire at home or, if you don’t have access to a fireplace at your own home, go to a café or lodge with a fireplace and share a dessert and coffee while enjoying the warmth of the fire.
Winter Date Idea #4: Holiday Gift Shopping
Holiday gift shopping can be a stressful activity, but it doesn’t have to be. You can turn your holiday gift shopping into a fun couples activity. The key is to keep it light hearted. Plan a day of shopping in your favorite mall or shopping center, with a lunch break in between in order to sit and unwind a bit. Go with the intention of browsing around for gifts, picking up things here or there – don’t go with an agenda to find everything you are looking for…this could lead to stress or anxiety. Make sure you plan your shopping date far in advance of when you will be giving the gifts, so that you can take your time while you and your partner look around.
Winter Date Idea #5: Have a Snow Fight
Wrap yourself up in a heavy jacket, lace up your snow boots, and venture outside into the snow for the day. You and your loved one can spend the day building snowmen, making snow angels, and having playful snowball fights. Enjoy the snow while you can, it doesn’t stick around all year, after all. It’s a great way to get exercise and afterwards you can head indoors for some hot cocoa.
Remember, just because the weather turns cold, it doesn’t mean your dates have to loose their warmth. You can have a fun and romantic time with your partner even when it’s snowy, stormy, or icy. Take advantage of the winter weather with fun in the snow and ice skating, keep warm in front of the fire, and participate in holiday activities like shopping and Christmas light gazing and your winter is sure to be full of warm and happy memories with your sweetheart.
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Kim Lance is the Associate Publisher of Online Dating Magazine, an Internet publication covering online dating through news, reviews, experiences, interviews, and articles.
This article is copyright and may not be republished. Used with permission.